Becky- K 2 (p2)

So I guess after having a girl I needed a MAN. LOL. I met K up at the market place for a few drinks and then we walked over to a gourmet pizza place we both liked. We shared a pizza and bottle of wine whiled listening to a live band playing in the court yard. This is the 2nd time we have done this and both enjoy it.
K asked to take me to this dive/wanna be strip club bar. I said yes of course :)
The bar reminded me of one back home and was interesting. We stayed for one drink, talked a bit then started to drive back to my car at the market place.
I told K about V coming over the night before and he said he was jealous that V got to come over. Haha. so, I told K he could come over.
K let me drive is EXTREMELY nice sports car! That was a blast. We went to the store then back to my place and hung out by the pool. I lit the Tiki torches and we went swimming. (hmm sound familiar? )
Then we went to my bedroom and he stayed the night. The 1st guy to ever stay.
In the morning we still had to go get my car. He let me drive his sports car again :)

Becky- V 7

V (F/26) is the first female I went on a date with. I met her at a bar about a month ago and been planning to meet up.
She came over to my place last night. I ordered pizza and we had some beers. We talked by the pool for awhile but it became too warm and muggy out so we decided to go swimming. I lit the new Tiki torches I just got and they were awesome to have next to the pool. (Helped to set the mood. LOL) We started to make out in the pool.
I’ve made out with girls before but usually cuz I’ve been drinking or just for fun etc. but this was different. It was an actual date. I have to admit I wasn’t sure what I should do, or how to act.
We ended up watching a movie and she then left in the morning.

Becky- M 6

M (m/27) asked me to meet up with him and a friend for drinks. After drinks we went back to M's condo to go swimming. Too many guys from the condos were getting in the pool so M's friend invited us to his house that also had a pool and theater room. They wanted me to invite a female friend of mine to join but she wasn't able to come.
We got to the friends house and went swimming. The friend that clearly had too much to drink kept hitting on me whenever M left or even had his back turned. I was started to get annoyed and pissed. Not to mention this other guy was gross. So, M and I went back to his place.

Becky- C 5

I met C (M/30 ish) at a party when I was on date 1 with Dr. We decided to go out last Saturday and go out to dinner.
He called me after working 10-12 shift. He apologized for being tired but insisted we still meet up for a date.
Right before the date my roommates asked if i wanted to go see a movie. Which, i had been wanting to see. the theater was in the same shopping center as my date. i told my roommates that i would make sure I'm done with the date early enough to make it to the movie.
C was clearly exhausted and constantly apologized for it. it was extremely annoying. i told him it would have been fine to reschedule but he didn't want to.
C is attractive but way too goody goody and proper for me. and the fact they he kept apologizing over every little thing ruined a chance of a second date.

Zack on Becky

Becky is behind on her blogging, but I will keep her tally on track. Last night she had her first date with a girl so hopefully at least that one gets some coverage. If not, I'll just write about what i saw from my home office while watching watching season 4 lost episodes.

Zack (S7)

Kind of a cheat, but S(23f) and I dated for like a month 6 months ago. She is cute and spunky, but no long term potential. She is fine around me, but is constantly talking about all of the drama in her life. She tends to exagerate the significance of events and comments and overvalues advice from her friends. All this and she proclaims to not be into drama.

We sat in the same bookstore as two of my other dates from this past weekend (they are going to start recognizing me there!) and talked while browsing books. She picked out a few discounted pieces of lit based on my recomendations and then we parted after a hug in the parking lot.

Zack (S6)

Short and sweet. S (27f) and I chatted several times online throughout the week. On Monday I was able to convice her that it was a good idea to invite me over to her place for some beers and cards. We watched one of my favorite movies until the credits and then took things to her bedroom. I swear all of this was harder back when I was 22. Are older women easier, or did I just get better at charming their pants off?

I drove home that night because I had to work in the morning. Kind of a long day, but worth it. Another date would be very doubtful. She was super nice, and I had a great time, but I would rather meet someone new.

Zack (K3) p2

I asked K out for Sunday afternoon around 4pm, knowing that my date with M4 would be over about 2pm and I would need to grab a bite to eat. I showed up to her place and found out that her neighbor that was supposed to babysit just bought a new 'pre-owned' car and the tire blew from the dealership. This gave me an hour of down time to hang out with her in her husband's (separated) house with her 5 year old daughter. Wow was that awkward.

I love kids, but I pretty much suck with the little ones. I am not goofy, or silly and I don't fake it well. Believe me I try, and K definitely thought I did a fine job, but on my own grading scale I give me a C-. Thankfully I am not often in the position to meet a married woman's spawn from her failed (but still existent) marriage. Weird.

We had dinner at Applebees on me, and then drove back to her place to watch a movie.... in her husbands bedroom. There is a special circle of hell just for me.

I don't like to kiss and tell, so lets flash forward a bit. K is naked on the bed and I am shirtless next to her. She tells me that she is in love with another man. Half of me is like "wow. ballsy." the other half is like "wtf do I care, this isn't serious you are fucking 37 years old. Someday I am going to put a baby in a woman, and if that day isn't tomorrow then that woman probably isn't going to be you."

From there we have this amazingly honest and heartfelt discussion on love, sex, relationships... everything. It is hands down the most honest conversations that I have ever had with someone. By the end I had insights on every part of the courting process and had given her the courage to make the decisions that needed to be made in her own love life. We dressed and she walked me to my car. A hug goodbye and I will likely never speak to her again.

Zack (M5)

M (32f) is a project manager for the web design division of a well known hosting company. She was super cool. Definitely the most comfortable conversation blogged about thus far. For the first hour we sat and talked about all the little things and bonded over several common dispositions including how personal a tattoo is and being a nerd is kick ass.

If you ever want to give the illusion that more time has passed than is actually the case, move the date to someplace new. This has several positive effects including giving her the impression that you are multidimensional. If you move the date (or go for a walk at least) you are basically on your second date. She will automatically be more comfortable because you have now done two things together and she will 'feel like she can trust you'. You also seem more interesting because she can look back on the date and her recap in her mind will be longer.

I took M on a walk around the same strip mall (a popular hangout and great for people watching) as C the previous night. Then we sat in the same cafe but this time had some ICB root beers to cool off after our walk.

On our 'second date' M told me about this blog she used to write called 'successful online dating'. I about shit a brick. The next 15 minutes were picking her brain about her findings. The beauty is that she basically can't say anything bad about something from our date because I had established for the last hour that I was more comfortable in my skin that she was in hers. She was just a touch nervous and a wink off balance the entire time. I had been making just the right amount of eye contact to make sure she knew I was judging her words, but not so much that she thought I was hanging on them. Anywho she rattled off several giant red flags that I wouldn't even bother to mention, but I guess other guys will do repeatedly. Things like being overly aggressive on a date. If you yell at a waitress you are a douche and should never get a second date. No need to 'reveal' this in a blog post. :)

Anyway M was a super cool chick that just didn't end up being attractive enough to me to want to ask out again. She should have no problems in the future, but just wasn't the right girl for me.

Zack (D2) p2

I had a nice time on round one with D and so we decided to hang out again. I took "The Fountain" over to her place about two and we watched it over some chips, salsa, and a VERY strong margarita. Let me take this time to say that the best way to get someone drunk is to give them a very weak mixed drink and then follow up with something stronger. If you just give them something strong to start with then 1) they know you are trying to get them drunk and 2) they are going to nurse the thing forever. So when D made me a margarita with 7 shots in it, I knew she was up to something.....

We bonded over a quality art film even though her brother (19) joined up for a the first 30 minutes or so. I never let a third wheel bother me and have learned how to take advantage of this situation when it falls in my lap. Impressing a close friend or in this case the little brother/ roommate is a great way to earn points with a girl. It isn't always easy, but it is always worth points. Having a third wheel around for a chunk of your date is not a bad thing if you know what you are doing.

After our intellectual bonding we physically bonded and then I told her I had to meet my roommates for dinner and hang out time. I left about 6pm for (C4) to her sadness.