If you ever want to give the illusion that more time has passed than is actually the case, move the date to someplace new. This has several positive effects including giving her the impression that you are multidimensional. If you move the date (or go for a walk at least) you are basically on your second date. She will automatically be more comfortable because you have now done two things together and she will 'feel like she can trust you'. You also seem more interesting because she can look back on the date and her recap in her mind will be longer.
I took M on a walk around the same strip mall (a popular hangout and great for people watching) as C the previous night. Then we sat in the same cafe but this time had some ICB root beers to cool off after our walk.
On our 'second date' M told me about this blog she used to write called 'successful online dating'. I about shit a brick. The next 15 minutes were picking her brain about her findings. The beauty is that she basically can't say anything bad about something from our date because I had established for the last hour that I was more comfortable in my skin that she was in hers. She was just a touch nervous and a wink off balance the entire time. I had been making just the right amount of eye contact to make sure she knew I was judging her words, but not so much that she thought I was hanging on them. Anywho she rattled off several giant red flags that I wouldn't even bother to mention, but I guess other guys will do repeatedly. Things like being overly aggressive on a date. If you yell at a waitress you are a douche and should never get a second date. No need to 'reveal' this in a blog post. :)
Anyway M was a super cool chick that just didn't end up being attractive enough to me to want to ask out again. She should have no problems in the future, but just wasn't the right girl for me.
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