Zack (C4)

On the first day of this contest I had two dates scheduled that canceled on me. One was with D (4of) that moved to Sunday and was my first official point. The second was C (28f) that canceled at the last minute because she was too drunk. Fine. So we rescheduled for drinks in a bar of her choice on Friday at 11pm, right after my date with K (37f). My plan was to text her at 9:00 to let her know that i was going to be running late and that way i could get another 30 mins if needed with K. Besides the annoyance of her flaking on the first date she also tells me a few days later that we will be having drinks with all of her friends since meeting people on the Internet is scary. Normally I can understand and respect the concern, but things are starting to add up with this girl to be a major headache.

So when I texted her at 9pm she tells me that she is already home from the bar and really sleepy. This isn't that surprising to me because of the first flake. In fact I had counted on it and that is why I double booked for Friday night in the first place!

I laid on the guilt as thick as I could without risking pissing her off and somehow making me look like a gentleman in the process. I consider this the trade for 'something fun' later. NEVER be mean to your date. The old adage 'Don't get mad, get even' is so true. I definitely had the right to be upset, but by being the bigger person I am more likely to actually get something in return later. Getting upset just brings the score back to even and I am too clever for that.

Saturday, the morning after the second flaking, we schedule for that night (after my second date with D). I vote for cards at her place (our original plan before she flaked the first time) but she counters with a movie. Now I love movies and I love dating, but I don't mix the two. Combine that with flaking on me twice and there is no way in hell that I am paying for her movie. I might have let her pay mine as a symbol of apology, but I would rather just save those points for later. We agree on coffee as long as she wears something cute.

I have found that girls often appreciate the opportunity to have their beauty efforts noticed. They also like to be ordered around playfully. This also opens the door for blatant staring and comments on clothes, jewelry, shoes, etc. in person later without risking being creepy. In general if you can set out some simple hoops for a girl to jump through, then they will concentrate on meeting expectations rather than worry about whether they should actually care about impressing you.

It is very unlikely that C will get a second date. She is not attractive enough in her online pictures and she has flaked on me twice. She is going to have to knock this one out of the park.

Immediately after leaving (D2)-p2 I called C4 (24f) to firm up our date. Part of me expected another flake, but she actually came through this time. We met at a bookstore in a strip mall and had a mocha frap (me) /tea (her) while we chatted in the bookstore cafe area.

C was incredibly nervous. She picked at her tea lid with both hands for the entire hour that we talked. She has a poor taste in movies and music, and claims to have no time to read. Lets pause here. During this date I actually contemplated how much time I am wasting with girls so obviously wrong for me. Then I remembered how I can learn something from everyone and made it a point to spend the rest of our time together trying to learn something valuable from her. Second pause. Who can't find time to read if they want to? Can you read 10 pages 3 nights a week? Cause that is 1500 pages/ year and would probably get you through 5 decent books. Everyone can find time to read something. If you don't read then tell me you don't like it. If you don't own your life, who does? Jesus.

So eventually C had some great things to say about her financial advising job and I learned something after all. We hugged at her car and I continued on to see a movie with Becky and one of our other roommates.